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The Card of the Day: The Six of Wands (Reversed)

The Card of the Day: The Six of Wands (Reversed)

 “Validate yourself.”


The Six of Wands represents gaining attention through excellence. This card reminds you that nobody doesyoulike you!  Everybody has a gift, talent, or personal strength that they really excel at. This card advises you not only to embrace your talents, but to display them unapologetically. Only you have your unique recipe of abilities. The best way to improve your life is to love yourself fully, and this includes the gifts that you bring.

Were you taught that it’s immodest and rude to call attention to your gifts? (A huge epidemic in the Midwest!) Do you diminish your abilities and belittle your talents so others don't think you are "better than them?" Are you speaking up, and getting compensated appropriately for the work that you do?

The man on the card is the center of a triumphant procession. He is elevated by his peers because of his gifts. His regal bearing shows that he is completely comfortable with his self-confidence. He isn't being arrogant, he is simply owning what makes "him," him. The others in the procession carry their own wands, but only his wand is wreathed with glory. He is "standing out," and he isn't afraid of it. His horse is richly dressed, this guy is not afraid to put on a show. Most people love it! It appears that he saved the town, or is a marvelous celebrity. However, if you look closely behind the man riding the horse, there is another face in the crowd. This face holds an expression of jealousy and envy.

It's a sad fact that the people who shine brightest will often be the targets of others who are insecure with their own abilities. Sometimes this fear of being targeted causes talented people, with extraordinary gifts, to hide their gifts. And yet, it really isn't about others. If you are following your passion, and loving every moment of it, then it won't matter at all what others think. If you truly believe in your value, and your worth then there should be no question that you should own your best-self. If you are afraid to be yourself because of a backlash from others, then you probably have some serious self-loving to get to! In the end, it's not about what others think about you, but what you truly believe about yourself. Do you feel worthy enough to reveal the "real you?"

Today, it's time to fully embrace your talents, abilities, and your worth. It's time to stop throwing yourself under the bus, to appease the wounded egos of the weak. The people that you actually want to attract will love when you are confident. You will actually attract other individuals who are comfortable in their own skin. The people who are repelled by your light will go away. And good riddance! Buh-Bye! The only thing you need to do is follow your inner compass, and stop conforming to what the bovines want you to be.

So ask for that raise! Stop apologizing for yourself to make others feel better. Raise your prices if they are way too low. Let your thoughts be known (respectfully). Call attention to your talents and promote them. Go for that promotion. Stop following and lead your own life. "Own it!"

Go out and be your own best cheerleader!

If the Six of Wands appears reversed,you are put on notice to identify any erosion to your self-confidence that you might be experiencing. Like the reversed picture, don't let the opinions of others (the crowd on top) take precedence over the belief you have in your own gifts and abilities (the wreathed wand at the bottom). What others think or say about you does not matter as much as what you think and believe about yourself.

It can be encouraging to receive the validation of others, but never place yourself in a position of dependency on it. An authentic feeling of validation can only come from within. Anything else is a fleeting imitation. Ask yourself why you are doing what you excel at, is it for “them” or for you? Love yourself, your spirit, your unique beauty, your talents, and your abilities without the need for validation. It doesn’t matter what others think about your talents as long as you are happy with what you are creating. Keep your eyes on your own paper and create the life you want. The only validation you truly need is your own.

The Card of the Day: The Queen of Pentacles (Reversed)

The Card of the Day: The Queen of Pentacles (Reversed)

The Card of the Day: The Ace of Pentacles

The Card of the Day: The Ace of Pentacles