The Card of the Day: The Queen of Cups (Reversed)
"Feel your feelings."
The Queen of Cups is completely at peace with her sensitivity. She is nurturing, caring and encourages her subjects to see the value of their feelings and emotions. She sees sensitivity as something that makes one strong, not weak. The Queen of Cups views feelings as sacred, because they reveal life to us in vibrant colors. Feelings allow us to experience joy, excitement, love, bliss, and rapture. The Queen of Cups reminds us to be grateful for our feelings, even when they cause us pain. After all, feelings give life flavor.
Are you uncomfortable with your feelings? Are you afraid to be "open" because someone or something might potentially hurt you? Do you bottle up your feelings and deny they are even there?
Cups and the water element in the tarot symbolize feelings. The Queen of Cups places her feelings in the most precious chalice of the entire tarot. Her cup is gilded in gold and adorned with angels. This symbolizes that her feelings are honored. She sees their worth and value because they give life color and complexity. To prove this point, she is surrounded by colorful beach stones.
If you've ever collected stones on the beach as a child, you'll remember that when they are dry, they are kind of pretty, but still a bit dull. However, if you placed these stones in water, suddenly the stone becomes alive with vibrant colors and textures. The complexity of the stone is revealed through water. Likewise, a dull or boring life, can reveal its vibrancy if you open yourself to "feeling it," instead of just "looking at it."
One issue with our world is that people are afraid to feel. We are told "don't be so sensitive," as if feelings make us weak. We are told to "toughen up." This is especially true for boys, who above all else are not allowed to be sensitive or "weak," although many girls are increasingly experiencing this too. The trouble with this is we all have feelings. Denying they are there leads to imbalance with the world around us. The more emotions that are bottled up, numbed, or not experienced, the more of "living" we miss out on. A lot of us don't want to feel because it might hurt. But this is just stupid fear talking, robbing us again of an experience that could actually bring us joy.
To experience the vibrancy of life follow the Queen's example, and look for beauty. Beauty activates emotional responses that feel good. Science confirms that beauty releases pleasure giving dopamines from the brain into the bloodstream. Buy some flowers or beautiful art for your home or work environment. Admire the beauty in the natural world around you. It's everywhere! Look at what appears to be dull stones in your everyday life. Open yourself to feeling the beauty of the seemingly mundane, and watch life's vibrancy reveal itself to you.
Alice Walker summed it up best in her book "The Color Purple." She wrote:
"I think it pisses God off if you walk by the color purple in a field somewhere and don't notice it. People think pleasing God is all God cares about. But any fool living in the world can see it is always trying to please us back."
When the Queen of Cups appears reversed she represents that you may be passing through life without "letting it in." All of your rites of passage, your achievements, and your self-improvements need to be acknowledged and felt at this time. The Queen of Cups encourages you to honor your feelings, and reminds you that your feelings give your life meaning, awareness, and colorful vibrancy. Today, don't "blank out" while doing tasks on autopilot. Stop once in awhile, and be present with the beauty that surrounds you. Acknowledge yourself, love yourself, and appreciate yourself for the work you do every day to improve your life, and the lives of others.
Opening yourself to feelings can sometimes bring about emotional pain, hurt, or discomfort. These feelings especially need to be felt, honored, and then released. Crying is a good thing, and helps clear blocked emotional energy. This will ensure that difficult emotions don't become bottled up and create problems for you unconsciously. To avoid getting stuck on painful feelings, ask yourself what the feelings may be teaching you at this stage in your life. What are you learning from being present with them? To release negative emotions, focus on something beautiful. Allow yourself to let in all of its brilliance. Today, take care of your feelings. Filter out whatever is painful and release it. Choose to focus on beauty, and on life's magic. Stop going through life without feeling it! If you feel stuck, you can always do something for someone else to make them feel good. This always has the added effect of helping your emotions as well. Feelings are very precious! Let them flow. Be at peace with them, and with yourself.